Coffee wasn’t always such a big deal, you know. At one point, it was just something that truckers drank and diners served endless pots of in many places. But beverages grow, they change, and somehow there’s been a boom where you need to know a little more about coffee than whether or not you want a small, medium, or large cup at McDonalds.

A lot of people who think they know a lot about coffee actually don’t, really, because they assume that in cultures where coffee is consumed more, people know more about it. The fact of the matter is that just because a country drinks coffee every day, it doesn’t mean that the people sitting in the cafes know any more or any less about it than your average Starbucks customer. It’s just a part of the culture, and a huge part of socializing.

A bit of history on coffee: it’s not something that every country can make, which is why a lot of countries were a little late to the game, or had some seriously sub-par beans for quite some time. And a love for coffee doesn’t mean that you even have tried that many varieties. From Columbia to Jamaica, Kenya to Java, a number of locations all develop their own special types of beans, which can only grow in those climates.

There’s a lot to be said about developing a love for coffee at a younger age. Instead of just getting hopped up on caffeine and sugar, it’s nice to practice drinking such a distinguished beverage. Because really, that’s what coffee ultimately is: a more appropriate social drink that you can’t get drunk on.

So learning to love coffee requires not just a learning of the back story, but also an understanding of what to order. Let’s say you aren’t particularly interested in drinking something with milk in it. Wherever you are in the world, avoid the phrase “con leche” or anything with an “appucino” ending, because that means that milk or cream is involved in making foam, or rather, milk is simply added to the coffee. For versions that you don’t have to drink with milk, the best bets are simply black coffee, or a double-shot of espresso.

But part of a love for coffee is appreciating all of the fun and fancy versions of drinks that have been developed, and trying them all out. Depending on where you are in the world, or the style of coffee you’re sampling, a number of different things are used for flavor. Whether it’s enjoying the taste of chocolate in a mocha or drizzling some sweet caramel-like sauce down in Argentina right into the coffee, it doesn’t have to be a bitter-tasting drink experience.

One of the best parts about drinking coffee, especially socially, is the snacks! From Holland to Argentina, you can expect at least a couple of cookies and sometimes even a glass of orange juice, so there’s always something to pick at while you’re enjoying your coffee. It’s also nice, if you haven’t eaten, to put something in your stomach that isn’t just a cup of caffeine.

Don’t forget: the main purpose of drinking any sort of beverage with a group of friends is to socialize. You don’t need to be an expert on coffee, or even have a serious love for coffee, to go out and use the excuse of an afternoon cup to make a great friend or get to know a new place better. Just do it.

If Damian Papworth hosts a major celebration he pulls out the 12 cup coffee maker. For typical mornings though one cup coffee makers are more appropriate